How to: Resolve a Conflict

How To:


RESOLVE A CONFLICT.

It's not that hard to get into a disagreement with someone, but quite difficult to get out of one.
Throughout my years of experience in acting mostly as a middleman in countless struggles between friends, familia, etc., here are some general factors that seem to work the best.

-Rationalize: Try to see what you are doing wrong, before you jump straight to someone else's fault. Then, see how the problem could be fixed by changing something on your side, or help change the other's, or both!
[Biblical Ref: "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?" -Matt. 7:3]

-Improvise: Think of a solution in which you end up with a win-win domination. Talk it out, and make a pact, or something.

-Apologize: This is often the most teeth-grinding bit of making up. Just simply say,
"I'm sorry (for blahblahblah)."
When accusations are abound however, neither side will be apoplectic first. When all is seems dim, then apologize, even if you are absolutely convinced that you're right. ...No, I'm serious! Lie, and say that you're mistaken. It is the rarest but best resolution.

Be Aware:

Sometimes, even when you exert your best efforts to resolve something, your strife still won't go away. That's okay. As long as you sincerely tried, then you have done all you could. It really won't be your fault anymore after that.

Sometimes, the optimal fix is just talking.
Yeah, sorry, you can't get away with just sending an email.
Talk to that person/animal/violin personally, and with the right attitude too.
...Try not to be sarcastic.